I acknowledged our 22nd wedding anniversary earlier this month. I say “I” because milestone dates or even holidays are met with very casual or no interest as dementia progresses.

Case in point. We had finished breakfast and were on our way to do errands on said anniversary. As we were pulling out of the post office I said, “Do you know what day it is today?” He said, “What?”  I said,  “It’s our 22nd wedding anniversary.” He said, “Well, that’s good.”

Then he spied the parking lot adjacent to the post office which is home to dozens of postal carrier vehicles. He was so enthused.  He wanted to stop and count them, and he talked about them all the way to the grocery store.

Between the not understanding what an anniversary is because of dementia and COVID not allowing us to go anywhere to celebrate, it was kind of a “meh” day.

I strongly urge you, care givers of dementia patients, to get out there and celebrate while the celebrating is good!

If you have to celebrate at home, make it a really fun home celebration. Zoom or Face Time family and friends, dig up your favorite “dating” music, pull out the wedding pictures. Whatever.

Next year your loved one might be more interested in postal trucks than an anniversary.

With love & hope,

Jane